Initially destined for a military career, Mildmay’s marriage to a Barings heiress propelled him to a top seat in the family’s mercantile house, where his ‘natural timidity’ as a speculator soon became ‘a constant source of complaint’.
The sixth son of a Tory baronet who had purchased an electoral interest at Winchester, Mildmay (as he was generally known) was born into one of Hampshire’s leading political families. Following the death of the baronet in 1808, Mildmay’s mother Lady Jane Mildmay had assumed control of the family’s political interest, returning his elder brothers Sir Henry Carew St. John Mildmay (1787-1848) and Paulet St. John Mildmay (1791-1845) in succession for Winchester, which they both represented as Whigs.
In 1823 Mildmay made ‘one of the few rich marriages of the family’.
The appointment was not a success. Mildmay’s nervousness about speculating with millions of pounds made him ‘quite unfit to run the bank’, and his partners at Barings were soon treating him ‘with affectionate contempt’. ‘His punctuality and attention to business deserve great praise’, remarked Bates, ‘but he suffers from weak nerves and having had but little experience his natural timidity is thereby heightened’.
Mildmay’s first two attempts to enter Parliament ended in failure. In 1835 he stood for Maldon with the backing of his younger brother Carew (1800-78), rector of nearby Chelmsford, citing his support for a repeal of the malt tax and adherence to the ‘same principles’ as his father, who had ‘lived and died a staunch Tory’. He was defeated in third place.
Mildmay eventually secured election in 1842 after a protracted candidacy at Southampton, first for an anticipated vacancy that never took place and then in the double by-election that followed the unseating of both the sitting Tories for bribery. His family’s local status featured prominently throughout his campaign, managed by the borough’s irrepressible Tory patron John Fleming MP, but it was his role as ‘head of the most extensive mercantile house in the world’ and command of ‘all that commercial and shipping influence ... so desirable in the representative of a port’ that secured his return at the top of the poll. He also agreed to contribute at least £5,000 ‘to secure his election’.
Mildmay’s Commons’ duties inevitably curtailed his involvement at Barings, though probably not enough for his partners, who were finding him ‘increasingly a liability’.
At the 1847 general election Mildmay offered again for Southampton, where the local party was split between Peelites and Protectionists, many of whom had been ‘offended’ by his support for the Maynooth grant. Invited by a Tory meeting to ‘pledge’ his opposition to further Catholic concessions, he categorically refused and left the field, explaining that he ‘differed’ with a ‘very influential portion’ of his friends over the treatment of ‘our Catholic fellow citizens’.
By 1847 Mildmay, whose first wife Anne Baring had died tragically in 1839 ‘as the result of her clothes catching fire’, had been ‘eased out’ of Barings Bank.
Mildmay died later that year at his home in Berkeley Square, where he lived with his second wife, who was twenty years his junior, his two adult sons from his first marriage, two young daughters from his second, and a dozen servants.
