Stanhope was obliged, as a younger son, to follow his brother Sir John Stanhope I* into the Elizabethan Court, where he became a groom of the privy chamber.
Soon after James I ascended the throne in March 1603 rumours began to circulate that a Parliament would be summoned. Consequently, the following month Stanhope, vice admiral of Suffolk, was proposed by his deputy vice admiral as a candidate at Dunwich. The corporation, perhaps fearing that Stanhope would be returned elsewhere and try to nominate a successor, insisted that he serve in person.
Stanhope was appointed to nine committees in the 1604-10 Parliament. In the first session he was named to consider the bill to prevent the obstruction of navigable rivers (23 June), which may have been of interest to him as his eldest brother Sir Thomas† had built a weir on the River Trent.
Stanhope was not re-elected in 1614, possibly because he was in dispute with the Orford corporation over the rent due for St. Leonard’s hospital, which he apparently had demolished.
Stanhope was so crippled with gout that he was unable to sign his elaborate will on 6 Nov. 1621, or either of its two subsequent codicils, and conscious of imminent senility, he dreaded litigation, but failed to avert it. He left bequests to the poor of a dozen parishes in Suffolk, and others in Derbyshire and Middlesex. St. Bartholomew’s hospital, London was to receive £100 ‘for the care and relief of diseased, maimed, and poor persons’, and Trinity, ‘in which college I was once a scholar’, the same amount for the library, in the explicit hope that the testator’s generosity would be remembered to the advantage of his kinsfolk. Various Stanhope relatives were given token bequests and senior members of his household staff were liberally rewarded with money and land for faithful service. Even the intemperate bailiff of the home farm at Sudbourne, ‘once my horsekeeper’, received £20 with an exhortation ‘to serve God and leave drunkenness’. Tollemache was splendidly equipped for all seasons with ‘my velvet gown laid with gold lace and furred with sables and my damask gown laid with gold and black silk lace’. The executors, Tollemache and another kinsman, Thomas Cornwallis I* ‘of whose religious uprightness and conscionable justice I am to my great comfort fully persuaded’, were each to receive £100 plus £20 p.a. for three years over and above their expenses. Stanhope died on 20 Dec. 1621 and was buried at Sudbourne, ‘where I have now in my lifetime erected my tomb’, which was adorned with a blend of genealogical detail and biblical texts.
The executors successfully fought off an attempt by Stanhope’s daughters to overturn the will on the grounds of mental incapacity; in any case they were scarcely hard done by. Most of the Suffolk estate, valued at £1,500 p.a., had been settled on his eldest daughter, who brought it to her second husband Sir William Withypoll*; the Middlesex property went to his other son-in-law, the 8th Lord Berkeley, who was also to inherit several Suffolk manors on condition that he laid out £2,000 on ‘special furniture, to remain as my gift in Berkeley Castle for ever’. The youngest daughter, for all the doubts over her paternity, married the 1st earl of Desmond in 1630, and lived at Osterley until its sale to the parliamentary general Sir William Waller† during the Interregnum.
