Douro, who was destined to be ‘une lune bien pâle auprès de son père’, spent his early life with his mother and younger brother Charles, while his father acquired fame through military successes in the war against Buonaparte and ennoblement as duke of Wellington. His parents’ marriage was unhappy and the brothers, who were not considered close to the duke, accompanied each other to Eton and to university and embarked on army careers simultaneously. Describing their situation in his diary in June 1832, following a conversation with Lord Charles, Edward John Littleton* noted:
The duke is fond of his sons, but I never saw them riding or walking together in my life and I believe they seldom converse. He seems to like that he and his sons should live independently of each other. But he allows them [to] treat Apsley House as a barrack and to use his table when he dines there.
Hatherton diary, 17 June 1832.
Wellington’s appointment as premier in 1828 brought offers to seat his sons from supporters seeking patronage, and Douro’s candidature was sought by a deputation from Weymouth in January and the duke of Rutland in July - the latter offering a seat for Cambridge in return for employment for the Member Frederick William Trench.
His teeth are the only feature in which he resembles his father, and altogether he is very homely in his air. Do you know he is engaged to be married to a daughter of Hume, the duke’s doctor? It seems she has stayed a good deal with the duchess, which has led to the youth proposing to her. When it was told to the duke, all he said was - ‘Ah! Rather young, Douro, are you not, to be married? Suppose you stay till the year is out and if then you are in the same mind, it’s all very well’.
Creevey Pprs. ii. 209.
A silent vote with government against Jewish emancipation, 17 May, is the only one recorded for him before the dissolution in July 1830. His father declined a requisition from Berkshire on his behalf that month, and at the general election he resumed the representation of Aldeburgh, which he visited for the first time with Croker.
Douro was in London and conspicuously absent from the division on the civil list by which his father’s ministry was brought down, 15 Nov. 1830.
His politics are decidedly adverse to his father’s and he is for a thorough reform. He dislikes London society for its heartlessness, and as good as told me Sir John Moore was as great a man as his father: this shows how keen he is in observation. What he liked best in Sir John Moore was his kindness of disposition.
Life of Napier ed. H.A. Bruce (1864), i. 333.
A bitter disagreement with Wellington, which the latter’s confidante Mrs. Arbuthnot failed to resolve, ensued; but eventually, in the charged atmosphere of his mother’s final illness, he reluctantly agreed to defer politically to his father.
Douro’s main interest now lay with his regiment at Dover, and he was ‘not inclined to become a Member of the next Parliament’.
