Arbuthnot was born on board the ship carrying his parents home from Lisbon, where his father had been chargé d’affaires. While still at school he became something of a favourite with the prince regent.
If you were well read in history; if you were a quick mathematician; if rapidly you could write good language; and if above all I saw an eagerness in you to make up for lost time and to acquire knowledge, I should not be so urgent with you … Your mind has never as yet been fixed intensely upon those thoughts and studies from which your real advantage in life is to be derived, whether that advantage is to consist in your advancement or in obtaining honour and reputation among men. Don’t think me censorious or severe in saying this to you; but now the hour of reflection is I trust and believe come upon you, do for a moment consider what pains, what anxiety and what sums of money have been expended on your education, and then proceed to think, my dearest boy, whether as yet I have reaped the fruit of all my exertions.
He went on to reproach Charles with the example of a labourer’s son for whom he had found civil employment, and whose superiority in handwriting and mathematics had caused him ‘humiliation’ and ‘misery’. Casting aside for the moment the fond hopes he had entertained of seeing his son ‘thirsting after knowledge and higher attainments’, he lowered his sights and exhorted him to acquire at least such rudimentary literary skills as were ‘absolutely indispensable’ for success in his chosen career as an army officer:
I am horror struck at the idea of your entering the army without such a strong foundation as may enable you to perfect your education hereafter … you have not one hour to lose … I should think that in my own mind I was dwelling too much on your present deficiencies, had I not from time to time seen the letters which you receive from friends of your own standing. I declare seriously that when you are with me I am in agony when I see you take pen in hand, and that I literally perspire at every pore lest those who see your language in writing should be saying to themselves how cruelly has this amiable boy been neglected … I have but one aim - your good. But yet it is so distressing to me always to appear preaching that I would hold my tongue, and pray for your success in silence, if I had not been forcibly struck with that vis inertiae which was so inherent in you. That must be shaken off, a new direction must be given to your thoughts.
As for the army, he wished to know whether Charles preferred the Blues or the Guards: while the latter would ‘better teach you your profession’ and ‘give you better society’, the regent had offered an opening in the former. In the event Arbuthnot opted for the Grenadiers, in which a commission was bought for him in December 1816.
In February 1819, when Arbuthnot, now in the 11th Hussars, was using a leave of absence to study French, German and ‘other literary pursuits’ under a ‘pastor’ in France, and was about to move to Hanover, his father complimented him on his ‘greatly improved style’. Both the regent and the duke of Wellington, his beautiful stepmother’s close friend, were keen to get him back into the Grenadiers (they never did); but his father cautioned him not to ‘buoy yourself up with expectations of a company so very soon as you seem to imagine, for though I will strive my utmost, you must be aware it is a work of time’.
When objections were raised to the appointment of his father, who was in financial difficulty after his move from the treasury to woods and forests in 1823, as agent for Ceylon in December of that year, there was talk of giving the sinecure to Arbuthnot; but nothing came of it.
When my incumbrances are all removed, as they will be now, I will make any addition to your income, in the event of your marrying, which you and I upon talking it over may think desirable. My object is that all my children should be as happy as I can make them, and that my behaviour to them should be such as to make it their interest, as I know it is their earnest anxiety, that I should live long with them … It would distress me beyond all thought or measure to see my children make improvident marriages … I want not greatness in wealth or station for my children; but I want that if they marry it should be into respectable families and to worthy objects. In this I have set them the example; and if you want to see the value of a good wife, read the last chapter in the Proverbs. Whenever you do marry, it will be my object to make you as comfortable as I can, as far as income goes. The choice must depend upon yourself.
Arbuthnot mss 3029/1/2/14.
After an initial hitch, the Winterbourne estate was sold for £22,000 late in 1829, when Arbuthnot’s father applied for him to be given leave of absence, on the pretext that ‘it is essentially necessary for you to be in England to perform your duties as prize agent for the Deccan’.
Arbuthnot duly returned in May 1830 and his stepmother wrote that ‘he is so amiable and so good, it is the greatest possible happiness to us to have him back’. Whether he carried out his plan to spend the summer in Hanover polishing his rusty French and German is not clear.
At the general election of 1831 Arbuthnot stood for Tregony on the interest of James Adam Gordon* and was returned after a contest. On their way back to London he and his colleague James Mackillop paused at Devonport to consider the possibility of standing for Saltash, where there was ‘decidedly an anti-reform feeling’; but nothing came of the notion.
I have no fear whatever of the 90th. To say the truth I fear it may be got into order too easily. I want you to have some disappointments and some hardships. It is the good will of God that this should happen to all men, and I hope it will happen to you in the way that will the least injure your real happiness, and be the most efficacious in disciplining your mind and understanding to take the right measure of things (neither too high nor too low) and to view them through a true medium precisely as they are. You have the best of hearts. You have great energy, great ambition, great means of succeeding in what you resolve upon. But from the goodness of your heart kind words lead you astray, and you use a glass to look through which dims the object from magnifying too much. There you are, painted to the life. Be persevering; be sober minded; be indefatigable in study so as to know and to see to the bottom of things as well as their surfaces; and under the blessing of God you will prosper and go (as I wish you) far beyond what I have done.
Ibid. 3029/1/2/30.
Arbuthnot, who is not known to have spoken in debate, voted against the second reading of the Grey ministry’s reintroduced reform bill, 6 July 1831. He was in the opposition minorities on the case for using the 1831 census, 19 July, and the partial disfranchisement of Chippenham, 27 July; but he voted for the division of counties, 11 Aug., after informing his father of the ‘animated’ debate on Irish unrest, ‘the effect of which has shown how dreadfully weak the present government is’. He also thought that ‘in foreign politics they certainly make but a sorry appearance’, and he rated the secretary Lord Palmerston’s abilities very low.
A vast deal … was an exhortation to me to be on intimate terms with Lord Althorp*, Lord Duncannon*, etc.; and then he goes on to say that you and he exactly agree on all these points of cautious and liberal feeling towards public men, and that he had often urged this upon you as tending to your success in your profession. I replied to him that I had no personal enmity to those he named, but that … between them and me there could be no common feeling. I said that I never tried to control or influence your opinions, but that I rejoiced you had the same as me; and that I would rather see you injured in your profession than have you pretend to have public principles other than your real ones. I added that I had been chiefly pleased at your being in the House of Commons as it had enabled you to show the world what your principles are.
Arbuthnot mss 3029/1/2/35.
Arbuthnot returned to London to vote against the second reading of the revised reform bill, 17 Dec. 1831. He was in Glasgow in mid-January,
We are both of us very sorry that you leave Parliament, but the moment that Mr. Gordon wished you to do so there was not a word on our part to be said. We deeply regret your being out as it will remove you more, and much more, from us … We are also very sorry because we both feel strongly that it was good for you to be in. I know you always guide your will by mine, but I am aware that you do not feel as we do that it was useful to you for your advancement in life. If you were to go out it would have been wiser of Mr. Gordon to have had it done during the recess. He has taken the exact moment when it will produce the worst effect.
Ibid. 3029/1/2/30, 41.
Arbuthnot, who had a ‘providential escape’ when the steamboat returning him to Scotland in February 1832 ran aground, urged his father to ‘shake off’ his ‘despondency’ at the state of public affairs.
It is true that I aided and perhaps got for you all your promotion, but you got for yourself the character you have in your profession … I never see the duke in roaring spirits but when his old military associates are around him, and it is your military associates whom I would wish you to cultivate.
Arbuthnot Corresp. 184.
On his stepmother’s sudden death in August 1834 his devastated father, who took up residence with Wellington at Apsley House, handed over Woodford to him and made him the sole beneficiary and executor of his will, as ‘an act of justice which I owe to him’.
